So, I’ve been here on tumblr for 3 years (almost). And to be honest, tumblr became a very toxic place. I’m not happy about it, but this is life && reality. Also, people as well became very sensitive, including me, sadly. 

So what I want to talk about first & foremost: drama. Yes, this words is well known to us all in the worst possible way even thought the word ‘ drama ‘ was a very cool words for me in past, I was always thinking about drama theatre, but now I simply can’t feel comfortable when people say that word, because of what I’ve experience via tumblr and some toxic people (or not even toxic, just people).

Drama is never good. Callout posts are never good. If you have problems with the person: unfollow them or block them. This is the easiest way, to be honest. The easiest and the most peaceful. Let’s say that making a huge deal out of everything is lame and ridiculous. Yeah, there are times when you need to talk about thing, but do it privately, please. You’re not in 5th grade to scream about who hurt you or who is a bad girl. And holy shit, can I just say that using several sentences from a whole conversation and pretending that you’re the victim is not fucking cool.

Why drama is happening? Because either one person is too sensitive and can’t chill or there is a real trouble. I admit that there are times when people can argue, but please chill && do it privately. No one wants to read how you accuse another person when WE — those who read — only know one part of the story and maybe even not a half of the story, but YOUR POINT of view how that person hurt you or said something wrong: you can take sentences out of context, do only two screenshots out of all conversation and make it your ‘ evidence ’. Sadly, the drama / callout posts are also coming from a very popular bloggers, who we can call attention whores or drama queens. I’ve seen many dramas while I was here and every single one was simply awful.

I hate drama. I hate when people scream about ‘ AHHH THEY ATTACKED ME, LET’S CALL THEM OUT AND SAY HOW BAD THEY ARE ‘. This is ridiculous. This is really like a fucking kindergarten show. Or even like ‘ mean girls ‘ ( that i haven’t watched, but still ). This is how drama looks to me: a show, a pathetic show that no one wants to read or experience. Believe me, this makes people more uncomfortable than you can imagine.

Next topic is: people’s relationships on this website. After three years & many toxic communities have appeared, people became rather sensitive and fragile. Once again, in not a good way. I’m not accusing anyone, because I’ve became rather cautious and I have tons of things that started to make me feel uncomfortable or why i’ve became a highly private of selective blog.

Let’s talk about FRIENDS && THEIR RELATIONSHIPS. Why i’m talking about this? Because, once again, due to people’s sensitive behavior — people start to think that they will get hurt. It doesn’t matter from which side, but people simply start to feel anxious or guilty about something — yes, I’m not talking about everyone, but this is what i’ve experienced as well.

It’s one of the most important thing in roleplaying: contacting other people, talk to them and be freaking chill. We’re all HUMANS && we don’t know absolutely everything. I mean, hello, people: we can’t read minds! If something makes you uncomfortable: say it. If you feel like you’re being dragged into something: say it && decline. If you think someone forces you: SAY IT OUT LOUD. Never hold anything back. This is internet. We’re not seeing each other when we’re messaging each other. We don’t know what another person may feel and that’s why we’re saying everything.

Anxieties and mental illness can prevent us from speaking, but please remember: your true friend will never hurt you. If you feel uncomfortable they will understand and apologize. If they’re not — unfollow them or block them. BUT PLEASE, ALWAYS TALK BEFORE UNFOLLOWING OR BLOCKING THE PERSON YOU CONSIDERED AS MUTUAL/YOUR WERE TALKING TO THEM/CONSIDERED THEM AS FRIEND I DON’T EVEN KNOW. This is very important. We can’t read minds! WE CAN’T. This is why we’re talking to each other, messaging each other and playing with each other. This is partnership. This is not a one-sided battle or one-sided game. We’re playing because we want to get to know each other.

Never sit still and bottle things up. I prefer when people talk to me about what makes them feel uncomfortable. I have little common sense, I’m naive and too straightforward. I’ve been used && accused, blacklisted and etc. WITHOUT PEOPLE EVEN TELLING ME WHAT I DID WRONG. I’ve always felt horrible and I’m taking many things close to my heart, but I’ve been like this for three years and it’s not cool. I’m really pissed off.

My last topic is: characters && rping as them. It will be connected to the previous topic (friends) as well. 

GUYS, NO FRIEND WOULD WANT TO HURT YOU IF THEY WANT TO RP AS THE SAME CHARACTER. I mean, come on! We all would like to rp as many characters && there are tons of people who would love to rp with the duplicate. Isn’t it fun? There is so many things to rp as the same characters. It doesn’t mean that YOUR FRIEND is doing it to piss you off or hurt you. This is simply ridiculous! I’m the person who would love to rp with different characters including the duplicates/clones/twins.

 I would never want to hurt or make my friends sad, but please, understand that we may want to rp as the same character, but it doesn’t mean that i hate you or something. THIS IS NOT IT. 

We all choose who we want to rp as. It’s a matter of choice, we’re all humans who want to try out many things! And we — as friends — do not want to hurt each other && only want to take care of each other && have fun, right? Because roleplaying is all about the fun. 

PLEASE, TALK TO YOUR FRIEND BEFORE UNFOLLOWING OR SAYING THAT THEY BETRAYED YOU. TALK TO THEM. UNDERSTAND EACH OTHER && DON’T THINK EVERYONE WANTS TO HURT YOU.

Feel free to like or reblog. I don’t care tbh. I’m just… tired of all of this. I’m tired of feeling like I’m always fucking up and people simply ACT like they’re friends with me and never tell me what i’m doing wrong or if they feel uncomfortable. This is… just wrong. 

Thank you for reading this until the end if you did. Sorry for flood your dash with this.